Several days before the 'aku terima nikahnya' session, a friend of mine did ask me a jackpot question. Well actually he did share his own dilemma with marriage issue. To cut it short, let me just say that he had a girlfriend of 4-5 years that he planned to marry, then family comes between them. The girl's family ask them to quickly get married whilst the guy's family ask him to hold it since he has an elder sister who doesn't even has a boyfriend yet. Cliche right? But this is what is really happening in our country. 'Langkah bendul' is still a taboo. Bla bla bla.. then it happened that they have to say goodbye to each other. The girl's family ask her to marry a guy that they choose for her and she agreed because she is such an obedient daughter which is why I respect her so much. This is just the intro to the real issue here.
The guy, which is my friend was very heart broken. He cannot accept the fact that the girl is going to be somebody else's wife but there is nothing much he can do to protect her. He also has his own obligation towards his parents and he can do nothing except just watching the beloved one betrothed to other guy. Then, this dialog appears;
Him: Lyla, I just couldn't accept the fact that Kina (bukan name sebenar) is going to marry other guy
Me: Moving on is not as easy as being said. But yet you don't have any other choice
Him: I don't think that guy is good enough for her. I saw him on facebook. He is just so-so. Average look and nothing impressive.
Me: I can smell jealousy.
Him: No, I just concerned for Kina. This guy better take a good care or Kina. If he don't than he so gonna have to answer me
Me: Pardon me, but why did he has to answer to you?
Him: Because he took Kina away from me
I know exactly what this friend of mine is going through. Moving on is not that easy. But as a Muslim we have to believe in qada' and qadar. Every single thing happened has been written in Luh Mahfuz by our merciful God, Allah Azzawajalla. Kina's future husband did not took Kina from my guy friend, but Allah had already planned that Kina is going to be the other guy's wife even before Kina was born. So who are we as a weak and fragile servant to question God's will?
Long ago, I did have this dilemma as well. I took somebody else's boyfriend of 5-6years and I feel sorry for her every single days. Actually, I didn't steal him away from her but I do believe if I didn't exist after they broke up, perhaps they can reconcile. I love him dearly and I don't want to loose him but at the same time I felt guilty and I knew if the girl came and slap me in the face, I can't complaint. She still love him and her friends have been contacting him aka my boyfriend at that moment to tell him how much she love him and she still waits for him. Even after I became his wife also I still feel the guilt until one night I come to my sense. I was like; 'He is already mine and Allah has already stated that he's meant for me. So why did I still feel sorry for that girl? Well maybe she met my husband earlier than I did but she is the one who got the wrong person back then, not me'.. After that night, I was much relief and at ease. I pray the best for that girl. She's a good girl and she is way better than I am. Hey girl, If you happen to read this, I want you to know that I respect you and am sorry for the heartbroken you'd been through. But hey, there must be a good guy who are meant for you because you yourself is a great girl. I sincerely do pray for your happiness. And to my friend who happen to be the main character earlier, be strong ok? You should buy a superbike to mend your heart. Seriously! Hahaha.. Go for CBR 1000RR!!
P/S: Happy Birthday my pretty-sweet-cute maid of honour Mariam Subbari!!!!!
3 comments:
Hey dear. Welcome back! I've been waiting for ur update regarding the dewan..hehe. Alhamdulillah everything goes well for u. :)
I don't know why, but ur post this time seems to be so familiar to me. Your story, i mean. I've been living with the same guilt like u did, but my fiance always told me that i didn't steal him from her, it was fate that brought us together. But still, he is not yet my husband and hopefully will be. Like u n ur husband :)
As for your latest post, Alhamdulillah i didn't 'upgrade' my status on Fb after the engagement, just posting pictures. Then only heard that hadith and i quickly change the album's privacy. True, so many friends a bit kecik hati and all, but yeah, we better keep it secret until it the day.
Ok thats all. Sorry ter-membebel pulak i ni. Tulis blog sendiri malas..hee. Will wait for your wedding review darl. Take care (^^)v
Opps.. In case u got confused (i don't remember which account i used here before, but i'm Pinkish Electra Ema, the one that will use the same dewan like yours. hehe
Hi Ema.. hehehe.. been busy. i'll update about the dewan after this ya! terlupa pulak. blogger pun didnt sent any notification ada comments. huhu... thanks thanks thanks for waiting.. =)
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